Relationship and Couples Therapy
My work with people in relationships is aimed at fostering healthy and meaningful connections. One of my specialties is helping single people who desire a relationship to clarify what they are looking for, change unhealthy relationship patterns, and make better choices. If you would like to understand why you continually pick partners who are not healthy for you, why you exhibit the same unhelpful behaviors in every relationship, or how you can create the kind of relationship you have always wanted, it may be useful to discuss and explore these things in a nonjudgmental environment.
When working with couples or multiple partners, I aim to help people strengthen connection, intimacy, and understanding in order to resolve conflicts and get out of destructive patterns. My approach to couples therapy is based on an empirically validated approach called Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), which focuses on the ways in which underlying needs for attachment and connection may influence how we experience ourselves and our partners in relationship.
I work with people of all genders, sexual orientations, and relationship structures. Here are some common reasons why people come to see me for relationship counseling:
- To work on communication problems and find healthier modes of expression
- To deal with conflict around “hot” topics such as finances, sex, and time
- To learn how to negotiate differences and find ways to collaborate when partners have very different styles
- To develop healthy boundaries
- To deal with jealousy
- To deal with breaches in trust and develop or re-establish a secure bond
- To negotiate boundaries related to polyamorous, nonmonogamous, or open relationship structures
- To establish a solid foundation in the beginning of a relationship
- To have “big conversations” related to the relationship (e.g., marriage, family building).
- To deal with the relationship concerns that may arise when one or both people go through a major life transition (e.g., gender transition, getting into recovery, career change, significant loss).